We’ve all been trained to chase the same scoreboard: revenue, reach, speed, growth. We measure how fast we’re moving, how much we’re producing, how many people are watching. But here’s the uncomfortable truth — that scoreboard is incomplete. It leaves out peace. It leaves out presence. It leaves out impact. It leaves out the part of you that actually has to live with the results.
This conversation is about something most people never slow down long enough to define: What does it actually mean to live well?
Not “look successful.”
Not “make money.”
Live well.
To me, a life well lived is aligned across three areas:
Self – your energy, health, clarity, and sense of peace
Relationships – the people you’re doing life with, and how you actually show up for them
Impact – the value you create and the legacy you’re building through your work
If you don’t measure these, you will unintentionally prioritize everything else.
Here’s why that matters. I talk to entrepreneurs, executives, athletes, parents — people who are “winning” publicly and quietly hurting privately. They hit their financial targets, they get the house, they get the watch… and still feel anxious when they’re finally alone. Why? Because they optimized for appearance, not alignment. They built a business, but not a life.
So here’s the shift: You need your own scoreboard.
Start with clarity. Write, in your own words, what “a life well lived” means to you. Not a slogan. Not a social post. A standard. How do you want to feel each day? Who do you want to be remembered as? How do you want to show up for the people who trust you, love you, and depend on you? Fulfillment is not random — it’s built with intention.
Then match your time to your values. Your calendar is the most honest scoreboard you have. We all say “family matters,” “health matters,” “impact matters,” but our schedules tell the truth. If recovery, presence, and service have no space on your calendar, then they’re not priorities — they’re marketing. Block time the same way you would block a board meeting: time to recover, time to connect with someone you love without distraction, time to serve someone without expecting anything back.
And finally, review and course-correct in short cycles. You do not need to burn down your life to realign it. Once a week, ask yourself three questions:
Where did I live in alignment with what matters most?
Where did I drift?
Who did I serve?
Write the answers down. If you can’t name a person you meaningfully helped this week, you’re drifting from purpose — no matter how productive you felt. Service is not charity; it’s the metric that outlives you.
This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being honest.
Protect your standards. Build your rituals. Track what matters. Serve people every day.
If you can do that, you won’t just be successful.
You’ll be proud.
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